metromom

A collection of daily thoughts, ideas and links from a mom still seeking to acheive the "balance" of a spiritual journey, family, inner peace, carreer, world peace...while "trying" to look like a supermodel at the same time...

Wednesday, August 24, 2005

A Three Year Old At Heart

In my vast parenting experience I've found out a few things. One being a preschooler loves to exert her independence. She loves to push limits and discover how far she can go. The world is one big place, and she'd love to be Dora the Explorer...

It's challenging to find the balance of allowing her push all limits, and setting healthy boundaries. The times when she is pushing those healthy boundaries are times when she's confused, often unhappy trying to see if I'm there to enforce what I've said. Conistency is the key in this type of battle. If I say it, I have to mean it, and follow through. While teaching her to stay within these healthy boundaries is NOT fun, many times she fights it, in the end she's so much happier. It's like there is a sense of balance and she knows she's secure.

I think in my own life I've found the same to be true- When things are out of control, and I'm pushing the limits whether its physical (not taking care of myself in food, rest, activity) or mental (allowing my mind to become dulled because of lack of challenges), emotional (allowing my relationships to get off kilter) or spiritual (not taking the time I need to recharge my spirit)- in these times I'm usually unhappy, though often I'm the one in control of these areas allowing myself to get out of the healthy boundaries- I feel so much better when I'm on the track to being the best me I can be, when I'm keeping myself in check and exercising that dirty word: DISCIPLINE. Ouch. It doesn't feel good, sometimes I want to yell and scream and say "No! I don't want to!"- but I'm my happiest and best when I'm living a disciplined life. How about you?

2 Comments:

At 3:48 AM , Blogger Steph said...

Yes, I totally agree with you. I too find that I am at my best when I am leading a disciplined life.

I recently joined Curves, and I am so excited about what a difference it is making in my life. While I wasn't really excercising before, I now make it three times a week to Curves. It is simply a part of my routine. I have it on my schedule like all my other appointments.

I encourage everyone to take time to exercise, to spend time with God, to do something you love. Set them up as appointments to ensure that all the other demands of life don't squeeze these important things off your schedule.

 
At 9:12 AM , Blogger Deann said...

I totally agree Noelle. I was so excited for school to start so the whole family could back into a routine. Lack of routine and discipline led to my insanity and my kids' problematic behavior.

Now that Jake is back in school, he is much happier having a schedule. And Tyler and I have very quickly settled into our routine again.

I think we truly thrive for this. The question is, why do we fight doing these things, developing routines and discipline, when we know it will make our lives so much better?

 

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